I just realized a few moments ago, as I was sitting in the computer room at work, why I became a passive-aggressive person. (Passive-aggressive meaning that when I am feeling aggressive – which is not often – I express it as subtly as possibly). It is because when I was a child, when my father came home from work, he had a rule that no one (neither me nor my sibling) could speak to him for awhile. So, all the day’s stored-up news and requests which each of us wanted to express to our father the moment he returned were shunned away. And so this became a pattern of assumption – that requests of any kind that I may have, and by extension any concerns or frustrations needing to be expressed – should not be taken directly to the person concerned, but rather should be kept away, or rather silently pushed until they’re noticed.
(Who needs to buy therapy when revelation works just as well?)